There is about a quarter of an hour left in 2013 here in Mid Kansas, and I'm trying to figure out why I don't yield to the temptation to go ahead and "turn into a pumpkin" earlier rather than later. Everyone else has posted their "Happy New Year's" greetings on facebook, but I haven't. It all seems rather anticlimactic.
So, what's new about that? I've always been apathetic about this celebration thing; especially after an experience when I was perhaps 11 or 12. I was visiting a farm that New Year's Eve with my mother. One of my brothers family lived there with his parents-in-law and his new family, and we had come to help after the birth of a baby (can't rightly recall which child that was).
Midnight was approaching, and I got Mom to allow me to step out the back door and fire off a shot gun -- "Only once." Any more was wasteful. At the stroke of 12:00 AM, I stepped out, pointed the shotgun up and away from anything that might be damaged, and I pulled the trigger.
I can tell you that I was not prepared for my reaction. It was more like, "MEH" than not. I thought, Why in the world would anyone get excited about one more midnight? Why would I celebrate any passing day more than any other? Why should I wait for some artificial time to wish others well in their future? Isn't every day; every moment; the start of a whole "new year?" Shouldn't each moment of my life be lived in that expectation? Shouldn't I wish everyone a happy future at every moment of every new beginning?
And so, I try to live in that attitude.
It isn't easy for me to do, since I am an Adult A.D.D. person. Not every moment of my life is serendipitous. There are depressing times (although I don't suffer from chronic depression), just because things don't always go well and as an A.D.D. I am prone in the moment to exaggerate the importance of a coffee spill or a trip over a kitchen rug. In those times it's not uncommon; rather it is quite common for me to blurt out some epithet at the rug or at myself or at whatever has interrupted my calm of the moment.
In those moments it is precisely because, like Moses, "I am a man of unclean lips" that I often feel unworthy to even pray to God for strength. Still, I suck it up and pray. Sometimes the prayer is an epithet. Sometimes it is a simple confession, "Lord, it hurts!" Sometimes, depending on other health concerns of the day(s), it takes several days before I can return to an "even keel" and regain control, but my experience has always been that during my darkest hours, that's when I feel God's presence the more; when I feel the assurance that things will be better in the new times coming.
In that spirit, I wish you all a happy new year; for every day of every year, and I invite you to join me in mine.
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My Love Shall Live
Editorial Note: I wrote this poem after
an all-day ministry experience as a hospital
chaplain to a family who was losing a child
to a farming accident. The mother and father
were estranged and the older, adult siblings
were totally siding with Mom. Thus, the father
was having an especially dark day. He had
pinned his hopes on that child to bring the
family back together. The mother and some
of the siblings were in total denial when the
child died.
This event also brought to mind the time a
few years previous when a special professor
of mine lost his wife and a son in a firey car
crash. I showed him a draft of this poem.
His response was, "It's all there."
few years previous when a special professor
of mine lost his wife and a son in a firey car
crash. I showed him a draft of this poem.
His response was, "It's all there."
My Love Shall Live!
Jack L. Mace, © 1989
“He’s not dead!? It cannot be!
The doctor surely
lies.
He’s asleep! He’ll wake again
At breaking of the
dawn.
He will rise to laugh; to love.
So truly all can
see,
My faith robs death its dark rule.
Yes, I shall take
him home.
“Truly, it’s impossible,
that death should
lay him low.
He is keeper of my dreams ...
My love ... my
life ... my soul.
Love is stronger e'en than death.
True love shall
conquer all.
Do not talk to me of death.
I simply will not
hear.
My faith is strong, sufficient.
I know that he
will rise.
There is no love strong as mine.
My love, it will
prevail.
God will answer all my prayers
And make him whole
again.
Death shall not take whom I love.
To him, harm shall
not come.
“Look my friend! Look here and
see!
I hold his body,
warm.
Gently kissing loving lips,
His sweet, warm
breath I feel.
Nothing’s changed, as you can see.
How can you say
he’s gone?
Out the door to work or play
As he has always
done?”
So, in ominous abyss
She searches
height and breadth
Height and breadth of darkness cold,
to find her love,
now gone.
Love, now gone, hath borne away
the better part of
her -
Nay, ‘twas not the better part -
Indeed, most all
of her.
Yet doth she dare to fancy
that from dread
darkness cold,
She’ll bear forth her love, now gone,
Her anguish drive
away.
“He’s not dead, but gone aside,
And he’ll return
once more.
When he does, my tears he’ll dry
and make me whole
once more.
“Some day sure, this yet shall pass.
I’ll find my true
love home.
He’ll return in loving bliss
To hold me
evermore.
Evermore, then shall we rise
To dance away the
dark.
Dancing ... dancing
... gone the clouds,
Once more sweet
love we’ll share.”
Daily searching - bright or cloud -
And yet throughout
her night,
In loneliness she searches
Her bed for warmth
and love.
Finding naught but emptiness
She feels her
breath withdrawn.
Searching ever - pain so deep,
Increasing
ten-fold more.
“Some day sure, this yet shall pass.
I’ll find my true
love home.”
Finding naught, her hope doth wane.
... Her tears begin to know,
Never shall she find her love,
but cold within
the grave.
So in time, quoth she one day,
“He’s ...
gone ... for evermore.
“Lies cold my dear beloved,
Dead cold within
the grave.
Away, my heart is wrenched -
My heart and yes,
my breath.
My love ... life
... my heart and soul
Lies cold within
his grave.
I shall hold him nevermore,
His heart ... in
time ...
with mine.
“Harshly am I punished! Why,
And what the wrong
I’ve done!?
Forever gone is my love.
I’ll hold him
nevermore.
My God ... My God
... why, my God!?
You’ve taken him
from me.
We shared life ... love
... and breath.
Could he deserve
to die?
“A chasm, mighty - fearsome
-
Presides where
once he lived,
I perceive no distant shore -
Just broad and
deep despair.
I’m bereft on stormy sea.
Without my love
and stay,
Dare I stretch forth to wander
That wilderness so
drear?
“That chasm, mighty - fearsome -
Where once my true
love dwelt,
Robs me now of hope and dream.
His love I cannot
feel.
Fill it up again with love?
O God! It can’t be
done!
Such a deep and dread abyss
can nevermore be
filled.
“Would you not be satisfied
To take my life
instead?
Take thou my life, Lord, today,
And give it to my
love.
I’ve lived my life to fullness.
Of joy I’ve had my
fill.
In eternal rest lay me.
Rekindle life in
him.”
Companions come, then they go.
To comfort loss
they try.
Shall they feel dread loss she knows,
Most all of her
now gone?
Scarcely yet shall they perceive
Foreboding pain
within -
Foreboding pain - chasm broad
-
Where once her
true love dwelt?
Scarcely aught is left to her,
And why she cannot
know.
Thus quoth she, “’Tis vain, my friend,
That you presume
to grasp
My deep pains to lose my love,
My better part of
life -
Life I spent with my love, true
-
My dreams and all
my plans.
“Can you grasp my cursings bold,
To drive God ’way
from me?
Shall you know forsaken-ness,
And fear encounter
sweet?
Shall you know forsaken-ness,
No hope of being
found?
Ever fear I loneliness
Where fear I’ve
never known.
“You shall not perceive my pain,
Nor feel my empty
arms.
And Damn you! How dare you try
To show me skies
of blue!?
Can you perceive the darkness
of bright and
sunlit sky -
Fathom emptiness within?
Nor shall you want
to try!
“Dare you not to say to me,
‘with time, you’ll
better feel.’
Time I have - and emptiness.
My love hath gone
away.
Time ... and emptiness
... and pain,
These three my
days now rule.
Empty fall your platitudes.
It’s not all
right, you know!
“Scarce know you the pain I feel.
You’ve never held
true love
One last time for evermore,
And not to hold
again.
You’ve not known the still, cold form
that tore your
heart away;
Nor felt wrenched from your lungs
Your life
restoring breath.
“Yet, do I dare to fancy,
To seek and yet to
find,
In that ominous abyss
My true love, gone
away.
You shan’t know the pain I feel
Come feel my empty
arms.
Feel the chasm deep within.
Walk in if you can
bear.
“Burdened shame, and guilt, and doubt,
And emptiness I
feel.
Often in my deepest fear,
Too long, too deep
I’ve searched.
Reaching o’er abyss’s brink,
I’ve nearly fallen
in.
How I’ve kept my grip on life,
I surely do not
know.
“Do you know the reaching out,
The primal scream
for aid?
Have you felt that chasm deep
Where once your
true love dwelt?
Or perchance in tears you’ve drowned
To wake as living
dead.
Can you help me bear my pain?
It’s not all
right, you know.
jlm
Thursday, December 19, 2013
She was "Mom."
Nearly 20 years ago, I stood by her casket reveling in the joy of having had her
as "Mom."
Her last months were especially significant for me. We spent
many visits talking freely about her approaching death. Sadly, there were those
in the family who believed that we shouldn't talk with her about that. They
thought it would cause her to give up, but early after the last diagnosis from
her doctor she made it abundantly clear to me one day that she wanted to talk. She
wouldn't likely last more than 6 months longer with her congestive heart
failure, and she wanted us all to know she wasn’t afraid.
When I asked how she viewed death she said, “I’ve come to
think of death as an old friend waiting.”
That was the tone of many wonderful visits exploring faith
and the future.
On the night she died, I had just been cleared by my doctor
to leave off my neck brace from a broken neck three months earlier. Mom knew
how much pain I was in constantly. She had come to understand just what I meant
when she would ask how I was and I would respond, "My ME hurts."
She had been semi-conscious to unconscious all day, and my older
brother Ron notified me in the late afternoon that she likely wouldn't last the
night. The 50-some mile ride; albeit in a comfortable car; hurt like crazy.
Walking into her room was physically painful. I wanted to say, "Good-bye,
Mom," but there were some present who still denied how seriously she
wanted her "rest." So, I felt compelled to speak cautiously.
I went to her bed; laid my hand on her forehead and simply said,
"Mom, I'm here."
She opened her eyes. "Oh, it's you son. It must
be bad."
"It's OK, Mom. You can rest now."
She closed her eyes; I believe for the last time. She died
peacefully several hours later. Because of my extreme physical pain that night,
I wasn't able to stay and be present at the time of death, but I didn't need to
be. We both knew I had said “Good-bye.”
So, there I was at her casket, reveling in the joy of having
had her as “Mom.” I didn’t cry during that funeral time – before, during or
after – and my wife wondered later, “Why not?” The truth? I didn’t need to cry. Mom wasn’t
gone. She was – IS always a part of all of us. How could she be gone as long as
we carry her in our hearts?
But, there may be one thing missing. I remember how she
would kneel by her bed each night before retiring, and she would lovingly lift
each of us to God in her prayer. There by her casket, I wondered, “Who will say
a prayer each day for each of us now?”
Sadly, I haven’t picked up that challenge.
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